For our logical minds life is a polarity of good/bad, happy/sad, for/against, friend/foe, me/you etc.  But the reality is we have many different energetics at play inside of us and life is one long balancing act of feeling when we've gone to extreme and bringing ourselves back to centre between a polarised state.  We can see it clearly in the start of a romantic affair, that 'new' person awakens and brings out new depths of feeling, passion, intensity, lust, etc - beautiful to feel.  Then after a few months we start to 'normalise' there's less intensity, lust etc as the polarity just can't be sustained.  Then we question, Where have those deep beautiful endorphin-rich feelings gone?  Why are we left feeling 'luke warm'? No one state is ever permanent, done, fixed...it's all a beautiful, rich learning of what it is to be human and in a state of constant flux.  I'm this today, and I'm now this tomorrow.  Learning to mature from that space where we, as if still children, just want that stability of what was today, is still tomorrow, is, for us all ,our personal evolution.  Being interdependent is a space where our energy is still balanced within ourselves and that we aren't spiralling out of control because someone else's energy around us is frantic and wild.  This is what it is to be grounded, present, available, adaptable and knowing what our centre ground feels not in reponse to another's but to ourselves.  'To know thyself' is perhaps our greatest gift we can give ourselves and the world around us.